Trying to Decipher a Man's Mind...

So here's a little topic that I would like to hear some remarks on:

I have a friend (guy) who was in a long term relationship for about a little over a year. Long story short, he wanted to marry her and had planned to raise a family with her. But about 2 months ago he called me which he hardly ever does and seemed upset.

Another LONG story short: she wanted 'space' therefore he gave it to her a bit heart broken, she then slowly started saying her phone wasn't working so she couldn't call as much or for as long, nor could she text. Mind you he paid for this phone. She then started making excuses that she had family things on the days they always seen each other since it was long distance (bout an hour).

Then one day after a week of 'space' she broke up with him. He was devastated. then one drunken night...

he looked up online her phone bill to see if what was going on and there had been calls made from 11pm until 5 am almost every night. Sh** got real. He disconnected her phone and she flipped out. 

Lying saying it is calls her mother made to her grandmother. 

He then believed it and felt bad and started blaming himself...

Another long story short: she left on vacation for about a month and he was devastated wondering what was she doing etc. if she was sad about losing him etc.

Turns out she had a man out there...and he found out...and he still wanted an 'explanation.'

He then finds out she no longer was happy and was coming home earlier than planned...he was hopeful...she then texts him demanding to know why he disconnected her phone and was flipping out on him..

He is still blaming himself and is convinced she still loves him and doesn't know what to do to make things better...

I've told him it was over and clearly she did not appreciate him. But he doesn't seem to grasp it. & everyday its the same story "I miss her....I want to be with her...how can she tell me those things...I know she loves me.." I honestly am running out of things to tell him.

So I wonder...what should I say...?

Much love & harmony,

B

"Bad Things Happen to Good People"

So while I was hanging out with my best friend Paige, we were conversing about life. Lately life just hasn't been so nice to us, we've seen way better days. And the saying "bad things happen to good people" came up and rose a question in my head.

Is that true? I mean thinking about other peoples situations as well as mine, it seems like it may be. I've known whole families that are the SWEETEST NICEST people you can possibly find and sometimes life just deals them the worst hand possible. I've had people passing away who had so much potential and were doing big things.

Yet there are others who have not done nice things (to put it in simple non-offensive terms) and are still roaming around with luck on their side. Some in big mansions having no care in the world, others just never getting caught and seem unstoppable, some who commit atrocities to other humans and continue doing so because no one stops them. 

I know that it isn't fair and I know life isn't fair but still can't help but wonder if we are dealt hands that gives us all a fighting chance of making it as far as the others- the proper way.

That's all that was on my mind, but I'm off now busy day ahead tomorrow.

Much love & harmony,

B

When are you really spreading yourself thin?

So for the past few days I had to start organizing and start creating my schedule for next semester. & finally am done with the first draft (sad to say I have to make my schedule in drafts). I have realized I am so busy that I have to schedule in time for Food, Sleep, and working out. I was talking about my different commitments to a friend of mine, and he told me that I should be careful and not spread myself too thin. 

This rose a question to my head: When is it 'too much'? All of my life I have been used to living a hectic schedule. My mother always put me into all these different extra-curriculars that sometimes I won't be home until 11pm and then I had homework to do. So functioning on little sleep has been a norm for me. In addition to that I have always been the 'hard-working type of gal, and did what I have to do in order to make due with everything. 

I am proud to say I am unlike other college students here on my campus (can't speak for all), and I actually do know the value & weight of money. I made it to college without any other assistance (money-wise) but my own. I have a new car (who is in the shop due to my accident), pay my cell bill, my medical bill (I'm ALWAYS at the doctors), pay my insurance and all car payments, in addition to my other needs, plus am paying off a vacation on my own. But in order to be able to do all that financially I have to work and work ALOT!

So this coming semester I am taking 18 credits, 5 jobs, and trying to live a normal life still. Is that too much? I really didn't think of it since I just took it as "I need money, how to I go about getting it."How does one determine when is "too much" or when you are spreading yourself thin? Is it a social norm, or a personal thing? I am really curious to see.

Much love & harmony,

B

Antsy or sugar-high?

I can't seem to sit still as I'm typing right now. I can't determine if its the result of drinking soda this late (which I hardly ever drink) or because I am anxious for the fall semester to start. This semester is going to be a very stressful, eventful, and crazy time. This week has been a sneak preview (more like a bad omen) of the weeks to come.

I honestly am more excited to start dressing up again. Since I am not working at my office jobs right now I haven't been dressing up which sucks. I consider myself a girly-girl and loved to dress up and doll myself up ever since I was a itty bitty toddler. I'd love to show a picture of my first make-up experience, where I confused lipstick for a lollipop (eek!) but I'm too tired to pull out my baby album at the moment.

As I grew up I didn't really have a chance to bring out my fanciest dressiest things since there weren't a lot of occasions to dress up for. So when my high school prom came up you can bet I searched long and hard for a unique dress that was "me" and made me stand out from all the other typical dresses. Alas! I found the perfect one and at a very reasonable price. But of course like all prom prep work things turned a bit sour. I had to get a minor adjustment to my dress and the seamstress who 'fixed' my dress had made bad calculations and made it too short that it was almost impossible to zip of my dress properly. *insert big scream* you can imagine the teenage hormonal me was not too happy and felt like the world came crashing down (like most teens would exaggerate). Luckily my Mommie came to the rescue and tried to fix it (and she did for the most part). Yay!

**I attended two proms, and the first I hated my hair (bottom picture) I always enjoy having my hair down with my waves or curls. **

As you can see I like print just a tad bit lol. I don't go over board with it but just enough to say i enjoy it. the best part of my dress was the inside. The dress had a slit in the front and every time I walked the slit would flow and show the inside which had print! I got many complements for it. I saw that 75% of girls had the same dress just a different color or a tad bit different and I had a feeling that was going to happen so I had to make sure I had a unique dress. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED *happy dance*

I guess that's why I enjoy my jobs so much just because some of them require me to be dressy and I LOVE IT! gives me an excuse to wear my heels and create so many different outfits. The other fact that one of my jobs does involve the fashion industry a bit helps me find out the upcoming trends and the cutest sites that I can find unique clothes and shoes for affordable prices. YAY!

So Cheers!...to the fall and all of the wonderful outfits I will create.

Much love & harmony

B

Just Coincidence...?

So after trying to log into my paypal account to buy some essential items for 20 minutes I'm starting to think its a sign from the universe...that perhaps I shouldn't be shopping at the moment. 

I am not exactly a super religious person, though I was raised with a religion. I'd like to think I'm more spiritual than strictly religious. So therefore I believe that tiny hints or incidents of Murphy's Law is just a sign from above to quit doing what I'm doing before I get myself into trouble.

*sigh*

But there are times I refuse to listen---yup you guessed it, im stubborn. It runs through my family, and I can't seem to change it completely. There have been times where I realize I am being stubborn just a minute to late but then I'm too prideful to admit it. 

Ahhhh well.....I'm a woman with flaws but hey thats what makes people unique and things beautiful.

If everybody on this planet was perfect I am sure all of our memories and life experiences even adventures would surely be bland. & thats no fun.

I'd like to think that "wrong turns" or "just a minute too late" are sometimes a blessing. You'd be surprised what you see, do , and who you will meet because of those wrong turns or because you were a tad bit late. 

I just got lost in my writing there...having a bit of flashbacks. 

On a lighter note, I get my car back next week! *happydance* YAY!

Well it is late and I must be up at sunrise (7am) so I'll cease my blogging here for the night.

Much love & Harmony

B

Week Forecast: Cloudy, Rainy, with a 75% chance of Shopping

Hello all you bloggers!

Please give me a warm welcome and a high-five for my first blog ever! YAY! 

I finally decided to give blogging a try since I am a blog reader and have been having such a crazy life that I decided to write it all down and perhaps somewhere out there in this big big world someone can use it for themselves.

Wait a minute I haven't introduced myself...how rude of me.

My name is Bridget or Brii however you please I have many nicknames that many friends and family have decided to give me. I am Hispanic and proud of it! 

Few things I love are: SHOES (they make everything better), Clothes, Jewelry, typical shopaholic (healthy kind) and girly things. I also love food! I am very open to try any new foods so if you have any recipes please let me know! I'm always dying to try to make something new, I'm not much of an eating out person. 

There's something I want to talk about now more for my sake to clear my head and not allow myself to go nuts..this week has been hell week x infinity.

To start off with this past Sunday I got into a car accident with my brand new baby *tear*. Thank God everyone was OK, just a minor fender bender that really fended my bender (does that make any sense? LOL)

So on top of being car-less, I have now another Bill to add on top of my never-ending pile of bills. Which made me very very sad :(.

This week is also training week! yay..but not really. So my mornings start at 7am (if I want to speed out of here without much prep time (which means I've been walking around looking a hot hot mess...crampin' my style) & end at around 1 am. So I haven't gotten much sleep, which brings me to another points-- I LOVE SLEEPING! So you can already imagine, I've been Ms. CrankyPants err'day all day.

So after 3 days of living, breathing, thinking hell, My best friend Paige and I decided to go to the mall. Paige had an errand to run and I simply just wanted to get out. Of course being a shopaholic and all...going to the mall may not be the best idea for me but nevertheless I went. As we walked into Forever21 or XXI (whichever it is now) I knew I was in trouble. 

I absolutely loved the layout of this XXI store, super organized unlike others I've been too. My eyes fell on this cute Burgandy/Brick red Skinnys that I have been dying to add into my fall wardrobe but never managed to find the right one. I decided to try them on...mind you I was upset and being upset makes me want to buy things as comfort.

Thus I liked them and decided to buy since they were on sale anyways. As I walked out I saw these CUTE CUTE CUTE leopard print platform heels that I have been looking everywhere for. I have been dying for months now to add a pair of leopard print shoes to my wardrobe but always found shoes that were made of the cowhide-esque stuff and I HATE those. So I never bought them, but these were polyester and when I tried them on it felt like I still had my sandals on.

Paige, being the best friend that she is, convinced me to buy them. Her reason being its been a shitty week and summer and I deserved to splurge just a tiny bit. That's all the convincing I needed. and alas! I am quite happy and feel a bit better when I brought my new babies home.

I know many of you are probably judging and analyzing me due to me admitting I shop to comfort myself. What must be understood is that I am a conscious shopper, and as much as I may desperately want a pair of shoes, pants, etc. I really don't go through with buying it unless I have a friend convince me I should. I am a college student so therefore on a college-student budget. So need not worry I have a handle on my spending.

Back to my XXI Haul, I bought these two new babies without even thinking of what to pair it up with to make an outfit but as I laid it out I realized they MATCHED! which makes my life easier since now I don't have to search my closet as much to figure out what would work.

Don't they look fabulous? Just add a Black off the shoulder (fitted) shirt throw on some glass print earrings and walk out the door.

Well my lovely readers (if there are any), I must end this post since I have so much to do in so little time. Until next time!

Much love & harmony :)

B